I know there are many men out there who likely lothe shopping with their wives, but I think it’s not only fun but actually quite practical. I mean there’s plenty of walking (exercise), tons of time on the comfy couch by the dressing room (chilaxin’), and your wife comes out with all sorts of cute outfits on (gorgeous). Really, what’s not to enjoy?
The only thing I can think of is stores without couches…
Granted there’s definitely a level of, “I really hope she doesn’t pick the most expensive item in here.” But she’s having fun!
I think its the other men in the store that crack me up the most. We all seem to share a common bond – feeling a little awkward. Not to mention we’re all doing the same thing… Walking around with our noses buried in our iPhones because we need something more familiar than everything around us. Honestly we’re not being anti-social or unsupportive – we’re just being practical. Some of the guys are leaning, others sitting, a few of us pacing; but we’re each patiently waiting for our significant other to step out and say the infamous words, “How do I look?”
Several split-second decisions have to be made at that moment.
Before I voice my response, it is vital I quickly interpret my wife’s level of excitement. If I can tell she’s totally stoked on this outfit, but I’m not, then my opinion has to be very carefully and gently crafted. If she already sounds unsure, my response either needs to be so encouraging that she changes her mind or just simply agree with her and move on.
Many men end up like deer in the headlights, only one safe answer: “um, that looks good…” c’mon guys we all know this doesn’t quite cut it. Others though, (thankfully me included), can speak quite honestly.
How did I achieve this level of honesty at the threshold of the dressing room? Practice. Plus, honesty always succeeded by a clear explanation of my answers. The three keys are: honesty, active listening, and gentle explanation.
Still, Fashion Critic is not my only role. I also get to be the “dreaded Voice of Reason”. This time, Jess found several outfits she “liked” but “didn’t love” in store C. There was still “the one” at store A which was more expensive yet it was “the one”. The Voice of Reason spoke, helping her weigh the budget against the pros and cons.
Budget… we recently discovered the concept of “Cost Per Wear” which greatly helps one decide on the “real” value of an item. If a dress is $150 but you know you’ll wear it twice a month. The cost per wear is only $6.25 per wear, genius! (Price / # of Wears = CPW)
Pros and Cons… Many outfits I don’t totally love or “the one” that I love? That is the question. The Voice of Reason knows “the one” will not only make her feel prettier she’ll likely wear it more because she feels awesome in it! So this increases the number of wears which in turn decreases the cost per wear.
I know, very scientific….
So, the next time your wife says, “Let’s go shopping!” Get over your fear of women’s clothing stores, remember the three keys, and look ahead to a fun day with your best friend instead of torture.
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